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Thursday, October 27, 2005 Sometimes I don't know if I'm just being paranoid or over-sensitive. But I think a male colleague likes me. Even my colleagues thought so & teased me.Don't get me wrong. This male colleague is a helpful guy but he's definitely not my type. So lately, I've been trying to avoid him...hehee. Just two days back, on my way to lunch at a cafeteria, I saw him from a distance walking towards us & to the same cafeteria, so I quickly told my colleague. And we had to make a big detour & ended up eating elsewhere. Also as our office has two different floors - with mine located below......he would ALWAYS dropped by my workstation to talk to me whenever he's at my office. OK, perhaps he was just being friendly & just treat me as a friend. But sometimes, I find it weird so I'll make my "escape" by going out of the office to do my rounds when I see him somewhere in my office. Lately, I even took to taking another route to get to my office tower when I had always been walking to my office from the station, just to reduce the chances of seeing him on my way to the office. But it just seems that the more you want to avoid someone, the bigger the chance of bumping into that person. I'm not being bad (though I do feel bad about the "extreme" measures I take) . I may be talkative & is nice to everyone @ work but I don't want him to take it the wrong way. So it's better safe than sorry. Dun play play. Tuesday, October 25, 2005 Celebrated my Grandma's 90th birthday last Saturday at my uncle's house, where she's staying. We invited lots of our relatives, some of whom I don't think I've ever met. It's even crowded & "re nao" than a Chinese New Year gathering. We catered for a buffet style dinner & though the food wasn't that fantastic, I enjoyed the celebration in a simple way.My Grandma was very happy that day & I am very happy that she's happy too. Since my Grandma has difficulty walking now, having friends & relatives visiting her makes her really happy. By now, most of you would know I love my Grandma very much. I share her joy & her pain. Even though I find it hard to express it to her, as I can't speak much of her dialect - Teochew, I show it by visiting her as often as I could and I hope she knows that it's my way of expressing my love & respect for her. My Grandma used to look after me when I was a baby till I was about 2 or 3. So I guess that's why I feel this kinda bond with her. I used to get jealous & fight with my cousins for my Grandma's attention...haha. I value kinship more than I have ever had, ever since my dad passed away years back. I realized nothing is real, except for family. Just like many people out there, we take things & people for granted. Only when the person is no longer there, then we come to regret or realize what we missed. I have friends who take their family for granted...thinking that they'd always be there. Always complaining that their mom or their dad never gives them this or that. I am not saying I never complain (I do) but complaining & taking things / people for granted is another. Losing a loved one is never easy but it has made me realize one thing...treasure the moment you have with our loved ones & not take them for granted. Tuesday, October 18, 2005 Advice from Oprah about men ~If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better". You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behaviour. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them. Like many things & advice, it's always easier said than done. Fate is a funny thing. Sometimes you think you can live without love, but deep down you know you can't. So far, I have yet to meet anyone who tell me they don't need someone special to love them. Some have been searching for the One all their life. The more you look, the more that special someone won't appear. Love...it can show up at your door when you least expect it. Some lucky ones, just had it mapped out for them. There are no prince / princess charming. No one is perfect. We just have to live with each other flaws....provided they are bearable. Life's too full of surprises. So it's either you live with it or you walk away with it. Pain....its a process of growing up & learning. Love...it can be so beautiful. And they don't say "love is blind" for nothing. Saturday, October 15, 2005 Finally, I had some time to blog. Been kinda busy lately.I'm starting to think I'm living a routine life, like a robot. Mon - rest & relax day Tues - class to attend Wed - exercise & study/revision day (for weekly tests) Thur - facials Fri - class to attend Sat & Sun - catching on up sleep, hang out with friends & family day (repeat the whole cycle again week after week). Basically, there's nothing much to do in Singapore over the weekend also. So, weekend activities are the same week in & week out. Mood today: Not pretty cuz I got cheesed off by my subordinates. Come Monday, they will receive a stern warning & reminder from me. Frigging pissed. Thursday, October 06, 2005 Am back from Bangkok. Dunno why but I kept having the feeling I haven't shop & buy enough. Maybe cuz this time round I buy less "rubbish" hehee. But still, I'm happy with what I've bought. Got bags, accessories, shoes, clothes, etc.Each night after all the "hardwork", we'll end it with a massage. I did oil massage, foot with shoulder & head massage and also Thai massage. Woah! Damn shiok...after all the kneading I slept like a child. But I didn't quite enjoy the Thai Massage (which was the 1st time I tried) cuz I'm all skin & bones, it really hurts. I feel like I've paid the masseur $$ to torture me. Nonetheless, it was quite an experience. The massage places we went to were the decent ones but of course, there would always be those "hum sup" men trying their luck. They talked so loudly, disturbing our "peace & relaxation". Some asked the masseurs blatantly if got "special" or not. I feel like kicking their assess man! On the whole I enjoyed this trip & wished I had bought more things though! Anyhow, I was back at work yesterday & had managed to clear off my load. Today I'm taking it slow cuz I'm still on the "holiday recovery" mode. Attended an exclusive opening party at this new shop called Dashing Diva in Suntec. It's a nail-bar with a different concept. Apparently, it's quite 'high-end' & boasts fans such as Christina Aguilera. Been a long time since I last attended such events. Frankly, I hate mingling & PR-ing. Most of the time, I would end up with my pals at one corner drinking & eating & gossiping about other guests, haha. Saw quite a number of female celebrities. All of them are so slim & pretty! Dunno why but their face always seems to have a kinda glow. Maybe that's what they called the X-factor. As for me, I also have a kinda glow on my face...but definitely not the X-factor kind, but the T-zone oily kind. |
