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Friday, April 20, 2007 I've been asked this question today, "So how's married life"?. In fact, this is not the 1st time someone had asked me that question.And many a times, my answer would be "same lor"..nothing much changes. But the truth is, if you "dig" deep enough...there're actually differences. Well, guess because we are not staying at our own place yet so maybe the differences are not that prominent or great yet. Personally, I think the one great major difference is that once married, you're committed to each other & it's a life-time contract. Some even say it's a death sentence, haha. Anyway, being in a marriage means you'll have to deal with issues together and in times of arguments, resolve it amicably (as hard as it may be at times). Cannot anyhow throw tantrums already...but have to grow up & deal with things as mature adults. Like if in a relationship, when there's a quarrel...maybe one party will ignore or give the silent treatment to the other for a period of time. Or even during a quarrel, one party may just walk/run away. But if you're married, cannot behave as such liao. Well...maybe still can lah but it'll be abit awkward. Imagine staying together & giving each other the silent treatment. It's a torture. And cannot run away or don't want to meet up cuz cannot everytime when there's an argument, go back to "niang jia" or the husbands hang out somewhere else & don't come home. And some couples decide to break up after some argument but if you're already married, cannot make such decision liao...unless something happened. So I guess there's really a difference between pre & post married life. The same friend who asked me the question today also said to me, "I didn't know you need to put in so much work to manage your marriage". I think for those who are married, may or may not agree with me, but I think it's true. A lot of work is needed & required to manage a marriage, let alone a successful one :) Wednesday, April 11, 2007 Celebrated my 1 year anniversary with Michael on 9 April 2007, Monday.Though we are only together officially for a year, it felt like ages to me. Maybe we had sunk into the "lao fu lao qi" stage liao. We had a simple dinner at Giraffe Restaurant, located at the Istana Park. A pretty nice place with a relaxed, chill-out ambience & music. Food is not bad too. Currently, our lovenest is undergoing renovation which started work on 5 Apr. They took 2 days to hack the tiles and it will take about 10 days for the tiles to be laid. The expected completion date is mid-May. I can't wait for our place to be ready. We have already ordered & bought most of our furniture, electrical appliances and stuff. We're still hoping we will be able to get "sponsorship" for the rest of the electrical stuff..... We will be staying as a couple at our own place for now till when Michael's parents are too old to stay on their own then they will move in with us. No choice cuz Mic is the only son. Though I don't really mind staying with the in-laws but if given a choice I would rather not & I would rather stay with my own mom. Though my in-laws are ok people but sometimes the things they do or say can get on my nerves (hehee). Guess it's the same elsewhere for most of us who have to stay with the in-laws. |
