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Friday, April 20, 2007

I've been asked this question today, "So how's married life"?. In fact, this is not the 1st time someone had asked me that question.

And many a times, my answer would be "same lor"..nothing much changes.

But the truth is, if you "dig" deep enough...there're actually differences. Well, guess because we are not staying at our own place yet so maybe the differences are not that prominent or great yet.

Personally, I think the one great major difference is that once married, you're committed to each other & it's a life-time contract. Some even say it's a death sentence, haha.

Anyway, being in a marriage means you'll have to deal with issues together and in times of arguments, resolve it amicably (as hard as it may be at times). Cannot anyhow throw tantrums already...but have to grow up & deal with things as mature adults.

Like if in a relationship, when there's a quarrel...maybe one party will ignore or give the silent treatment to the other for a period of time. Or even during a quarrel, one party may just walk/run away.

But if you're married, cannot behave as such liao. Well...maybe still can lah but it'll be abit awkward. Imagine staying together & giving each other the silent treatment. It's a torture. And cannot run away or don't want to meet up cuz cannot everytime when there's an argument, go back to "niang jia" or the husbands hang out somewhere else & don't come home.

And some couples decide to break up after some argument but if you're already married, cannot make such decision liao...unless something happened.

So I guess there's really a difference between pre & post married life.

The same friend who asked me the question today also said to me, "I didn't know you need to put in so much work to manage your marriage".

I think for those who are married, may or may not agree with me, but I think it's true. A lot of work is needed & required to manage a marriage, let alone a successful one :)